It’s not always easy being a woman. When puberty hits you, you either suffer from the hormonal effects and show off on your skin or your figure. Or, you just become “emotional” based on what other people tell you. Once you’ve passed that stage and begin dating, there is the phase where you just don’t know where you are going, or what you like or if you like this person whom you’re dating or if you even want to date again. But nothing is as scary to a woman as the thought of turning thirty. Yes, the big 3-0 seems to scare us more than a thesis defense or a midterm exam after cramming the whole night.
The funny thing is that, when I turned thirty, I was still single. Coming from an Asian background, it wasn’t easy. My relatives would keep asking me when I will get married (implicating the fact that I might “expire” soon). I took it all with a smile and pretended I had an ear infection. But all kidding aside, I am writing this article because I hear of many 30-something women or women who are about to turn 30- scared. I want to help by telling you about my experience.
I turned 30 two years ago and believe it or not- it’s not bad at all! In fact, on my 30th year, I went skydiving! It was an exhilarating experience. I celebrated my birthday for the whole week- with all my beloved friends. I was single but happy. Yes, I wanted to meet the man of my dreams someday but I’m not willing (desperate enough) to settle on whoever walks in and impresses me with flowery words for the first five minutes. Yes, I did not have anybody to share it with back then but I didn’t fear being alone either. You have to be more confident than that. You have to know that you- as a woman- can stand alone without a man. But at the same time, when one day, you do meet one, you know that you are mature enough to know what you want and that a man can complement your life as a woman. Turning thirty doesn’t mean you hit the panic button and start planning to have a baby with the first person you like, that is called desperation. I know that unfortunately, we have our biological clocks and they are ticking- but the “clock” is not a bomb. When I turned thirty, and still single, I did not think that I will never ever get married or have a child. I met life face forward, confident and happy. This is the time where I participated in sports activities because I had so much time and even got to a point where I was healthier physically than when I was in my 20s. I used the time to enrich my life and improved on it.
As they say, “no one can make you happy, they can only make you happier”. A guy can smell desperation even on the phone. A guy can take advantage of a desperate woman. I didn’t meet the love of my life until last year (I was 31). I met him online. I’ve dated before but knew that each one of them were not the right person for me. I’ve met a guy who was “commitment-phobic”, a guy whose major interests in life was to play videogames all day, I could go on. My dating life was the entertaining story of the day with my girlfriends. You and your partner have to be equals. When I met the right one, trust me- all that waiting was worth it! All those years that I was single, I still cherished even now. I never forgot my girlfriends. They have been my support system throughout my single years. I’m still myself. I still have those “ME” nights when I just want to be alone and watch those chick flicks that a boyfriend might cringe on watching with you. I still participate with my team in a sports event. I’m 32 years old now and am engaged to be married next year. And even if I didn’t meet anybody for awhile, I knew that I was going to be alright and still be fabulous to all my friends.:)
It’s not always easy being a woman. When puberty hits you, you either suffer from the hormonal effects and show off on your skin or your figure. Or, you just become “emotional” based on what other people tell you. Once you’ve passed that stage and begin dating, there is the phase where you just don’t know where you are going, or what you like or if you like this person whom you’re dating or if you even want to date again. But nothing is as scary to a woman as the thought of turning thirty. Yes, the big 3-0 seems to scare us more than a thesis defense or a midterm exam after cramming the whole night.
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